Good Morning Flamelings!
Let’s talk about your relationship with honesty.
I have difficult relationship with it. I am brutally honest, almost to the point of being mean. I don’t do it to be mean but I have a very firm belief that if I’m going to say something, I’m going to be honest. I simply do not have the memory to spin a tale of lies that I will need to keep up with. I think I expect people to want to know the truth about whatever it is we’re talking about whether the new restaurant in town is overpriced or some gossip that occasionally comes my way. I also take this approach in every relationship I have: coworkers, family, friends, lovers. Honesty is one of my strong core values that shapes my day, my week, my life.
A few months ago I confided in a friend something that I felt he should know about me. I had just broken up with my long term relationship days before my friend had texted me and was already feeling rather vulnerable. I had done it to try to protect myself. We have a very honest relationship and have talked about things that I have never told anyone else before in my life. I trust him.
This week that honesty from a few months ago ended my friendship with him. A 10 year long one. I feel betrayed and hurt and a little mad at both of us that I felt safe in our understanding and it turns out that it wasn’t a safe environment.
It made me think about honesty and the way I approach it. I’ve hurt feelings accidentally, probably shared WAY too much information on numerous times, and now a friendship has ended. It’s shaken me enough to wonder if I’m really on the right path.
What’s your relationship like with honesty? Do you think there’s a time and place for it such as saying little white lies? Have you ever had your heart broken for being too honest?
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